Relationships
Why all of them come to an end
All around us is moving, transforming and vibrating. World is constant change. Existence is a sort of motion with terminal station unknown.
I would draw it as vector or arrow directed in the future at targets, which do not exist yet. What really makes our progress along spirals of time nobody knows. Nobody perceived mystery of whole picture. If small particle of enigma reveals itself, it takes form of life purpose in our consciousness or feeling what we came in this world for - in our heart.
It seems, relationship looks very much like a dance – tango or waltz, where partners combine or synchronize their rhythmical movements – until they both hear the music. By other words, every couple has rhythm of joint movement and its temporary destination. Nature of things brings us behind the borders of any temporary objectives.
To stay forcefully true to old rhythms often means to compromise your life purpose, to inhibit your advance. Swimming aside from old mutual goal may often be perceived as boredom, feeling of worthlessness and loss of interest to the partner. If the world is constant change, every minute of life brings us closer or farther from each other.
Think for a moment. Cosmos progressively increases or decreases distance between us while we pursue our own life goals.
Analyzing statistic of dating agencies, for example, one can see that short life of many love stories is predictable.
Why we do not search for true friend on internet or in the darkness of the bar, but never lose hope to find true love there? Instability and superficiality of dating has simple reason - absence of mutual life-long goals and interests.
Such phenomenon has much in common with seeking work through job agencies. When you send your CV to potential employer whose ad you just found on internet, you express readiness to submit your life purpose and life interests to people whom you know very little and who claim the right to carry our verdict about your competence and worthiness. What about internet dating, many persons there start search having such temporary goals, as occasional sexual satisfaction (mostly men), attractiveness verification seeking (mostly women) and obsessed pretending (creating extraordinary image of themselves- both genders).
But what about life-long marriages? Such miracle still exists in our world! Keeping in mind stories of long-lasting partnerships, one can try to find secret what kept couple together. Word “love” means much and nothing, being used by all in range from Christianity to porno-industry. I would use here more descriptive and exact terms. The glue substance that held all construction of partnership together might be such unromantic thing as common property or common business, financial dependence or disability of one partner, providing for children or even raising common pet!
It is not secret anymore, that encounters with primary goal of sexual satisfaction have extremely short period of life and take form of frustration and disappointment even being formally satisfied.
Nevertheless, even best relationships based at true friendship, respect and passion may end, and we must let it go. You can hardly expect somebody copying unique trajectory of your life
May 1st, 2008 at 8:48 am
Hello, I fell lucky that I located this post while browsing for relationship dating. I am with you on the topic of Relationships. Ironically, I was just putting a lot of thought into this last Thursday.
May 10th, 2008 at 5:16 pm
haben beide geschlechter jemals verstanden, das zeit nicht nur eine irdische
angelegenheit sei?
beziehungen wachsen wie alle evolutionsrhytmen im universum.
liebe kennt keine uhrzeit, wie wir den tag messen. in der natur entwickelt sich alles täglich neu so wie wir jeden tag neu geboren sind, wenn wir aus dem schlaf erwachen. in der gegenwart liegt die reale zeitempfindung für unser dasein. eine stunde kann wie eine ewigkeit erscheinen, wenn man darin das gefühl von liebe erkennt.